What it is Like to Transformationally Become Better
Readers of my new book, Becoming Better, keep telling me about how powerful and impactful a specific example is in this book. The example I am referring to is of my wife. She is someone who hasn’t just become incrementally better, she has become transformationally better. Here is a quote from the book that conveys […]
The 3 Biggest Reasons Most Adults Don’t Change, Develop, or Improve
Why two-thirds of well-intentioned professionals stay stuck—and how you can break the pattern. The Paradox of Adult Growth We live in an era awash with podcasts, masterclasses, and micro-learning apps, yet roughly 64 percent of adults plateau at the very first rung of adult development—what Robert Kegan calls the Socialized Mind (or what I label […]
Brené Brown Shows Us Becoming Better Is About Upgrading Our Internal Operating System
In 2010 Brené Brown walked onstage at TEDxHouston to explain “The Power of Vulnerability.” Twenty million views later, most observers chalked her meteoric rise up to brilliant research communication skills. Skills matter, of course—but they are only half the story. What truly vaulted Brown from anxious academic to global voice of courage was an under-the-hood […]
Is ADHD Holding You Back Without You Knowing It?
When early readers of my new book, Becoming Better: The Groundbreaking Science of Personal Transformation, have informed me that they have finished reading it, I always ask the same question: “What stood out or resonated with you?” While the responses vary, I’ve been surprised by how many people mention the content on ADHD. I think […]
Helpful Being Side Development Thoughts from Michael Bungay Stanier
Recently, I attended a workshop led by Michael Bungay Stanier titled Helping People with Hard Change Challenges. It was a rich and thought-provoking session, and one that left me with a mix of appreciation, curiosity, and a few points of challenge. In the workshop, Michael distinguished between two types of change: Easy Change and Hard […]
How to Know You are Elevating Yourself (i.e., Along Your Being Side)
When we invest in our personal or professional growth, we typically develop along one of two dimensions of ourselves: our Doing Side or our Being Side. Our Doing Side encompasses our knowledge, skills, capabilities, and behaviors — essentially, what we do and how effectively we do it. It’s the part of us that can be […]
Three Frameworks that Can Reveal Your Biggest Vertical Development Need
What is Vertical Development? If you are not familiar with vertical development, it is important to understand that we have two sides of ourselves: Our Doing Side – The level of our talent, knowledge, skills, & abilities Our Being Side – The sophistication of our internal operating system (to what degree is it wired for […]
Improving Your Mental Toughness: It’s Not About Skill Development—It’s About Being Development
Mental toughness is what allows us to stay focused, grounded, and effective when circumstances become difficult, unpredictable, or high-stakes. In today’s fast-paced, pressure-filled world, mental toughness is not just valuable—it’s essential for meaningful leadership and personal growth. You are probably reading this because you know of the importance of mental toughness. But, I am curious: […]
When Leaders Say They Will Step Up, Do They Know How to Step Up?
The New York Jets have long been an organization defined by frustration and underperformance. While their passionate fan base remains hopeful each season, the results on the field consistently fall short of expectations. Despite some promising moments, the team has failed to establish itself as a perennial contender. This is especially true in recent years, […]
My Next Book: Becoming Better (June 2025)
I am so excited to reveal the cover of my next book and tell you a little bit about it. We are in the final stages of proofreading, and I will soon be recording the audiobook. Here is the Current Book Description: You’re good—but what if you could unlock the transformative power of becoming better? […]
