If I am being honest, I have an 8-year-old daughter with the following negative mindsets:
- Fixed mindset – She tends to see failure as a signal that she is a failure, thus she is rather unwilling to take on challenges
- Closed mindset – She tends to think that what she knows is best and is often unwilling to explore others’ ideas and perspectives
- Prevention mindset – She is much more focused on avoiding problems (not failing) than reaching goals (trying new and different things to get her where she wants to be)
- Inward mindset – She tends to see herself as being more important than others, thus she can be inclined see and treat others (like her little brother) as objects or instruments to help her get what she wants and needs
Now, is she always negative? No.
Further, are her mindsets uncommon for an 8-year-old? No. In fact, her mindsets essentially resemble what I most commonly see in my college students.
Here are some results from a prior college class:
But, knowing what I know about mindsets, I can see how her mindsets are holding her back. Thus, I am always looking for ways to help her with her mindsets.
A Recent Powerful Message
My daughter is currently playing softball, and a few weeks ago, her softball league had their “opening day.” For this event, they brought in a former collegiate softball player who grew up in our city and now works for the Los Angeles Dodgers to speak to the girls.
She had an awesome and simple message for the girls. It was this:
You are strong!
You are beautiful!
You can do anything you put your mind to!
In fact, she started having the girls scream these mantras:
“I am strong!”
“I am beautiful!”
“I can do anything I put my mind to!”
It was a really powerful scene.
And, the mindset expert in me loved seeing my daughter scream these mantras.
Power of Self-Talk
Later that same day, my daughter was struggling with a portion of her homework. Rather than dig into it, she was getting frustrated and wanted to “give up.” Knowing she needed to complete her homework for her class in a couple of days and wouldn’t have any other time that weekend to work on it, I wanted to encourage her to stick with it.
So, I asked her what she learned at “opening day.” With a little prodding, I helped her recall that she learned that she was strong, she was beautiful, and that she could do anything she put her mind to.
In fact, I had her repeat the mantras a few times.
After doing so, she became reinvested in her homework. She had flipped her mindset in that moment and believed that she could persevere and accomplish her homework.
Over the next week or so, we repeated this scenario whenever she grew frustrated or was unwilling to try something new.
Every time, she rose to the challenge of the occasion.
What about you?
Do you see yourself as strong, beautiful, and that you can do anything you put your mind to?
How would your life be different if, every morning, you said to yourself:
“I am strong!
I am beautiful!
I can do anything I put my mind to!”
Would you think, learn, and behave differently than how you normally think, learn, and behave? Do you think you would start to create a brighter future for yourself day in and day out?
I think so!
Try it out!
In fact, if you want a case study in the power of mantras, check out this fantastic book:
I want to hear from you
What other mantras do you use or are you aware of that are powerful “mindset shifters?”
Please comment below. I would love to create a collection of mindset shifting mantras.
Thanks in advance.